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C.A.L.M.
Center’s Online Anger Management
C.A.L.M. Center’s Online Anger Management has been developed for the many clients who are unable to attend our weekly classes. Whether it is due to your busy schedules, classes are not held in your area, or simply cannot find a class.
We are pleased to be the first completely online anger management course that allows you to work at your own pace from the comfort of your home.
Our Online Anger Management course will teach you new positive life skills that will direct you’re thinking towards an effective problem solving model and skill set. The C.A.L.M. Center’s Online Anger Management course teaches healthy and successful boundary setting and assertive communication skills.
We will teach you the appropriate Cognitive Behavior Tools to manage your Anger for a life time by helping you to understand that anger is an emotion and not a behavior.
C.A.L.M. Center’s Online Anger Management is what people equate with quality education. This Anger Management program is widely accepted by the Courts and Human Resource Departments nationwide. It is recognized as an “Online Anger Management Course” as being credible and professional.
The Value of Choosing an Online Anger Management Course
Address a required Court Ordered Anger Management Need
Build Healthy Relationship Skills
Work at Your Own Pace (In Your Home)
Certificate of Completion Awarded
Letter of Evaluation Given
Affordable and User Friendly
Created by Behavior and Anger Management Professionals, Accepted Nationwide
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There is no association with either Dr. Carter of Dr. Minirth and CALM Center.
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What are common methods of handling anger, and which is the healthiest?
There are two basic ways to handle anger:
- Expression. This is conveying your anger. Expression occurs along a continuum, from having a reasonable, rational discussion to erupting into out-of-control violence. It's the difference between talking to someone or picking up a baseball bat and hitting them.
- Suppression. This is trying to hold in or ignore your anger. You may think you shouldn't be angry or that you'll lose control if you let yourself feel any anger. The danger in this passive approach is that you may not protect yourself when the need arises. You may also become passive-aggressive, where you don't express your anger assertively or directly but scheme to retaliate because you haven't learned how to express anger constructively. Trying to suppress your anger can lead to such health problems as headaches, stress, depression or high blood pressure.
Expressing yourself in an assertive - not an aggressive - manner is the healthiest approach to handling anger. Being assertive means that you state your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to exert power over them.
Myths About Anger
Myth #1:
Anger Is Inherited. One misconception or Myth about anger is that the way we express anger is inherited and cannot be changed. Sometimes, we may hear someone say, “I inherited my anger from my father; that’s just the way I am.” This statement implies that the expression of anger is a fixed and unalterable set of behaviors. Evidence from research studies, however, indicates that people are not born with set, specific ways of expressing anger. These studies show, rather, that because the expression of anger is learned behavior, more appropriate ways of expressing anger also can be learned.
It is well established that much of people’s behavior is learned by observing others, particularly influential people. These people include parents, family members, and friends. If children observe parents expressing anger through aggressive acts, such as verbal abuse and violence, it is very likely that they will learn to express anger in similar ways. Fortunately, this behavior can be changed by learning new and appropriate ways of anger expression. It is not necessary to continue to express anger by aggressive and violent means.
Myth #2:
Anger Automatically Leads to Aggression. A related Myth involves the misconception that the only effective way to express anger is through aggression. It is commonly thought that anger is something that builds and escalates to the point of an aggressive outburst. As has been said, however, anger does not necessarily lead to aggression. In fact, effective anger management involves controlling the escalation of anger by learning assertiveness skills, changing negative and hostile “self-talk,” challenging irrational beliefs, and employing a variety of behavioral strategies. These skills, techniques, and strategies will be discussed in later sessions.
Myth #3:
People Must Be Aggressive To Get What They Want. Many people confuse assertiveness with aggression. The goal of aggression is to dominate, intimidate, harm, or injure another person—to win at any cost. Conversely, the goal of assertiveness is to express feelings of anger in a way that is respectful of other people. For example, if you were upset because a friend was repeatedly late for meetings, you could respond by shouting obscenities and name-calling. This approach is an attack on the other person rather than an attempt to address the behavior that you find frustrating or anger provoking.
An assertive way of handling this situation might be to say, “When you are late for a meeting with me, I get pretty frustrated. I wish that you would be on time more often.” This statement expresses your feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction and communicates how you would like the situation changed. This expression does not blame or threaten the other person and minimizes the chance of causing emotional harm
Myth #4:
Venting Anger Is Always Desirable. For many years, the popular belief among numerous mental health professionals and laymen was that the aggressive expression of anger, such as screaming or beating on pillows, was healthy and therapeutic. Research studies have found, however, that people who vent their anger aggressively simply get better at being angry (Berkowitz, 1970; Murray, 1985; Straus, Gelles, & Steinmetz, 1980). In other words, venting anger in an aggressive manner reinforces aggressive behavior.
Ref: “Anger Management for Substance Abuse and Mental Health Clients”, DHHS
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